Coaching? Play ball?
Coaching is an elegant, facilitated process of establishing small goals in the service of larger overarching ones. It includes exploration, experimentation, problem-solving and incremental movement leading to success. It’s about becoming aware of your resources--inner, outer, personal, professional--and recognizing your strengths, not just your skills, the things that make you unambiguously you. (See my blog post about how goals are essential to a happier life.)
It's about asking, "what went well?" Most of us could rattle off what went wrong, but can we equally plant our flag in what's already going right? Research shows that we get far more mileage out of developing in the areas that are working, than trying to improve the areas that are not. This can be a game changer, like rocket fuel for getting you where you want to go.
The word "coach" sounds a little sporty--the analogy is apt, though. Just like in sports, a career or executive coach will challenge you to perform at your best, help you stretch, cheer you on, and ask that you to show up and do the work. Wanna reach your potential?
People with coaches get stuff done. The research is compelling, read "Research-Based Coaching" below.
In the process, you grow. You change. You become more like yourself—your best self, in your best life. More engaged. Most effective. Which will make you feel happier. Which will help you become more successful.
I’m a lover of laboratories. My coaching is informed by the research of Positive Psychology (aka, ‘the science of happiness’), an arm of psychology that studies what allows people to overcome obstacles to success, bounce back after hardship, and lead purpose-driven lives.
At work: There's a saying that goes, "people don't leave jobs, they leave managers." Most managers get promoted because they were good at a skill. But most were never taught how to lead others, which is a whole different ball game. Gallup research tells us that 70% of the American workforce is disengaged, mailing it in--mostly because they feel unappreciated by their bosses. Want to improve your bottom line? Improve how your managers lead. Coaching helps increase managers' effectiveness and improve an organizations bottom line by upwards of 500%.
Careers: We spend roughly 90,000 hours at work in our lifetime. If 70% are dissatisfied at work, roughly 90% of my clients come to me because of work and career-related issues: they want change. "Job-crafting," is one approach that sometimes allows people to stay at their workplace, but redesign a new position or way of being at a current job. Others come to craft themselves right out of jobs that no longer fit, have disappointed, or worn them down. Given the number of hours we spend at work, the work we do matters to our well-being. And getting very clear on change of work improves lives.
In life: Research shows that quality of life improves when we feel meaning, purpose, and opportunities for pleasure. Creating a life we want is a prescription for a more satisfying life. It's also a prescription for greater success. We mistakenly think that once we've attained our goals, we arrive at "happiness." But actually, the opposite is true. When we start with greater well-being, it's easier to succeed. Coaching builds confidence, helps people intentionally choose how they want to live their lives, and helps get people on track for that life--and get on track to greater well-being and success.
When's a Good Time for Coaching?
During transitions, when feeling stuck, when wanting to step into a larger role in your life; when starting a new business, navigating work or relationship impasses, or when looking to find more meaning, purpose, and joy. Coaching is for anyone who’s motivated to create more, do more, and make positive change in work or life.
Some people come when they hit a birthday that ends in a five or a zero. Or on an anniversary of some kind. The best time for coaching is when you're ready to put in the time and take the steps to make changes to your life or work.
One of the best things about coaching is that you don't do it alone. Together we form a partnership and an accountability system that gets your further in your change faster.
Are small and medium-sized business owners, executives, managers, academics, entrepreneurs, creatives, career changers, seekers, and possibly you.