How Lucky Charms Can Boost Our Courage. No, really.

Luck and Courage

What does “luck” have to do with increasing our courage, and in particular, lucky charms? Well, we often think we just get lucky--or we don't. While it is true that some people really do win the lottery--and without question, it's also true that we get born into one set of life circumstances rather than another, it's also true that most days, we're out making our own luck--it doesn't just get showered on us.

Trinkets, Talismans, Tchotchkes: How Lucky Charms Help Us Grow More Courageous


It turns out that many of us have a private strategy for increasing our “luck.” We wear a special pair of socks that make us feel unstoppable, we play at our best when we pull out our "lucky golf ball," we carry a special pebble in our pocket on a job interview. Myself, I have my “Superhero” pen that not only helps me write at my best, but it also seems to ward off things unsavory. (You don't want to see me when I lose that thing. I'm just sayin'.)
 


The Bottom Line

It's okay to be superstitious. The objects we give these special powers to actually increase our confidence. And when our confidence increases, so, too, does our courage--while also improving our performance! With even a little more confidence we find we can tip the scales in our courage favor--we can take that extra little step that we weren't sure we could. We rise. We become our better self. And if it's in the service of accomplishing our goals, making a more meaningful life, giving back to a world that could benefit from our gifts, that's quite possibly a very good thing.

 
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The Truth About Love (with wonderful video)

The Truth About Love (with wonderful video)

The research on love shows that love is indeed fleeting. Its affect lasts mere "micro moments." It's not even unconditional. And, it needs to be uncoupled from the word "romance." These micro moments happen any time we truly connect with someone else, whether it's our boss, a neighbor, the mail carrier, a stranger, or, fill in the blank. My point is, "The Supreme Emotion" is for everyone, it's not exclusive. Which means we can love often.

Why Self-Compassion Should be in Your Personal (and Professional) Toolbox

In the west, we almost uniformly believe that being self-critical will make us work harder, perform better, and turn us into much-improved people. But what the scientific data show is that judging ourselves harshly and beating up on ourselves actually makes us weaker in the face of failure, more emotionally reactive, and less likely to get the lessons we need to learn from our failures. We increase our levels of stress, anxiety, shame, and depression. These then position us for a second tier of suffering: feeling isolated from others, feeling insecure or inadequate. Never mind the disturbed sleep, poor concentration, and less-than-stellar coping strategies, from binge eating to excessive drinking. Ack.